Have you experienced the weird stares, the talk behind your back, and even the unwanted advice from strangers? If you are an autism mom, just like me, you probably do.
At times, being overburdened with doubts may seem overwhelming; however, the positive side is that one need not bear it all alone. Here are five simple, uplifting ways to handle it like a pro.
1. Focus on Your Own Path
Your family’s journey is unique, and that’s beautiful. Every family has its own story, and that is quite okay.
Do not let other people make you focus on unnecessary things; consider only the most important thing—your child's growth and happiness.
Tools like the One Autism Health App can help you stay organized and focused on what’s most important.
2. Master the Power of “Thank You”
The phrase "Thank you" or a form of appreciation can also serve the purpose in case of unwanted advice or criticism.
It will help you recognize the other person without giving too much information, thus avoiding indicating that you seek their approval.
3. Build your Own Supporters
Every autism parent needs a family and support. Look for such a community in your area or online. Having people who “get it” can help your morale, making the journey feel lighter and less lonely by the time.
Connecting with others who understand the ups and downs of autism care assistance is invaluable.
4. Educate, but Only When You Want To
Some people make assumptions, but their standpoint is usually based on ignorance or bias or they just don't know any better (respectfully).
You can change the situation with a few convincing words: "It’s hard for them to interact with people. We’ve got it under control." Explaining the situation calmly is enough for most judgmental people. No matter how difficult that conversation is, every moment is a learning/teaching moment.
5. Embrace Self-Compassion
The world might judge, but you shouldn’t allow this to happen. Self-praise is essential; for that purpose, you should tell yourself you're doing a fantastic job.
Parenting is tough, especially when managing autism sensory issues or working through occupational therapy. So, appreciate every achievement, great or small.
So, every time you start feeling the pressure of judgment, remember this: what you do is nothing less than a fantastic job. Keep going; there is no need to give up at this point. This is a long process, and you are doing awesome.
